Marriage takes a great amount of patience and endurance especially when you marry a spouse who has completely different values and habits;your marriage is bound to experience certain challenges. Everyone has his /her own good and bad habits and when those habits start to cohabit together, the good, the bad and the ugly is identified and condemnation takes its place in the marriage.
Today many marriages are strained due to couples’inability to manage their individual’s habits and lack of tolerance and commitment to their vows. Perhaps your spouse has certain bad habits which have left you feeling helpless, frustrated and unfulfilled in your marriage and you just cannot cope any longer.
Everyone has a bad habit
Habits are common to all either good or bad but the bad ones have the capacity to interfere negatively in your lives and prevent you from living a purpose-filled life with your spouse. The beauty of marriage is to bring two people with different habits together so that they can both live and learn from each other, no one is perfect but marriage has the capacity to unravel individual weaknesses so that one can take strength from the other.
Bad habits can be an influence
Habits are acquired patterns and behaviours which happen subconsciously most times. Habits can be acquired from those you hold in high esteem such as parents or trusted friends.
There are certain habits which might have had a big influence on your spouse from one or both parents as a child back in the days. Such strong habits can certainly become bad habits today if your spouse is still entrenched in them.
Parental guidance play a huge role in adult life and some of your spouse’s bad habits can be attributed to traits exhibited by his father or her mother. But once you understand the foundation of some of your spouse’s bad habits, you will known how to deal with them.
Bad habits can be emotional
Do you know that some bad habits can be associated with your spouse’s state of mind either within or outside the marriage? Everyone copes with bad situation in different ways and certain bad situations can lead to bad habits which can affect the peace and tranquillity of your marriage. It is therefore important that you do not undermine the power of love and affection in your marriage as this can lead a spouse to seek solace in bad habits.
Bad habits needs motivation
Marriage is the most confounding commitment you will ever make as a couple, it is also the most remarkable and beautiful journey the two of you will take together and become better people through tolerance and selflessness. If your spouse is finding it difficult to change his bad habit, he /she will need motivation and support and coming from you will make the process easier and faster too.
The joy of bad habits is in its openness, which also makes it more frustrating to deal with but when you truly understand the roots of your spouse’s habits, you will become less frustrated and better prepared to lend your support towards a positive change.
Your marriage has the capacity to change your views and perceptions of the past as you both experience marital transformations when you start to focus on your strengths rather than your weaknesses.